Recommandation : 4/5
Publication : 2016
Lu : 31 décembre 2019
Où : Paris
Pages : 415
Part I: The discipline of Perception
February: Passions and Emotions
April: Unbiased Thought
Part II: The discipline of Action
May: Right Action
June: Problem Solving
Part III: The discipline of Will
September: Fortitude and Resilience
October: Virtue and Kindness
November: Acceptance / Amor Fati
December: Meditation on Mortality
A Model of late Stoic Practice
February 8th – Did that make you feel better?
Tu te sens mieux ?
“The next time someone gets upset near you—crying, yelling, breaking something, being pointed or cruel—watch how quickly this statement will stop them cold: “I hope this is making you feel better.” Because, of course, it isn’t. Only in the bubble of extreme emotion can we justify any of that kind of behavior—and when called to account for it, we usually feel sheepish or embarrassed.”
February 19th – The Banquet of Life
“The next time you see something you want, remember Epictetus’s metaphor of life’s banquet. As you find yourself getting excited, ready to do anything and everything to get it—the equivalent of reaching across the table and grabbing a dish out of someone’s hands—just remind yourself: that’s bad manners and unnecessary. Then wait patiently for your turn.”
February 21st – Wish not, Want not
Goals & Want : “When it comes to your goals and the things you strive for, ask yourself: Am I in control of them or they in control of me?“
April 3rd – Deceived and Divided
Bring internal conflict into consciousness : “The Stoics say that that war is usually a result of our conflicting desires, our screwed-up judgments or biased thoughts. We don’t stop and ask: OK, what do I really want? What am I actually after here? If we did, we’d notice the contradictory and inconsistent wishes that we have. And then we’d stop working against ourselves. “
April 13th – Less is more
“Imagine the emperor of Rome, with his captive audience and unlimited power, telling himself not to be a person of “too many words and too many deeds.” Let that be a reminder the next time you feel self-indulgent or a little full of yourself, the next time you feel like impressing people.”
April 20th – Real good is simple
The fundamental goods : “the “good” that the Stoics advocate is simpler and more straightforward: wisdom, self-control, justice, courage. No one who achieves these quiet virtues experiences buyer’s remorse.”
April 26th – Things happen in training
Continual Training : “When you catch an elbow or an unfair blow today, shake off the pain and remind yourself: I’m learning. My sparring partner is learning too. This is practice for both of us—that’s all. I know a bit more about him or her, and from my reaction, they’re going to learn a little bit more about me too.
April 29th – Washing away the dust of life
“Looking at the beautiful expanse of the sky is an antidote to the nagging pettiness of earthly concerns. And it is good and sobering to lose yourself in that as often as you can.”
May 6th – Righteousness is beautiful
Beautiful = human excellence = just, even-tempered, self-controled
“human excellence? Young friend, if you wish to be beautiful, then work diligently at human excellence. And what is that? Observe those whom you praise without prejudice. The just or the unjust? The just. The even-tempered or the undisciplined? The even-tempered. The self-controlled or the uncontrolled? The self-controlled.”
May 12th – Kindness is always the right response
When I see fear in people – as I find myself able to do at times – I can use my kindness.
“Most rudeness, meanness, and cruelty are a mask for deep-seated weakness. Kindness in these situations is only possible for people of great strength. You have that strength. Use it.”
May 15th – Count your blessings
“So today, stop trying to get what other people have. Fight your urge to gather and hoard. That’s not the right way to live and act. Appreciate and take advantage of what you already do have, and let that attitude guide your actions.”
May 21st – What kind of boxer are you?
Philosophy = Preparing ourselves for what may come.
For every challenge I face: this is what I trained for, for this my discipline.
“Otherwise, it would be like the boxer exiting the ring because he took some punches. Actually, you can leave the boxing ring without consequence, but what advantage would come from abandoning the pursuit of wisdom? So, what should each of us say to every trial we face? This is what I’ve trained for, for this my discipline!”
May 28th – The First two things before acting
- “Don’t get upset.
- Do the right thing.”
Principle of Massive Action : “The next thing to do [2nd thing]—consider carefully the task at hand for what it is, while remembering that your purpose is to be a good human being. Get straight to doing what nature requires of you, and speak as you see most just and fitting—with kindness, modesty, and sincerity.”
June 9th – Solve problems early
“it’s easier to slow it down than to supplant it.”
“Rivers, are easiest to cross at their source.”
June 22nd – The definition of insanity
Insanity = “trying the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result.”
August 30th – When you feel lazy
“If you start something and right away feel yourself getting lazy and irritated, first ask yourself: Why am I doing this? If it really is a necessity, ask yourself: What’s behind my reluctance? Fear? Spite? Fatigue?“
August 31st – Consider your failings too
When reprimanding someone – turn back at myself.
“Whenever you take offense at someone’s wrongdoing, immediately turn to your own similar failings, such as seeing money as good, or pleasure, or a little fame—whatever form it takes. By thinking on this, you’ll quickly forget your anger, considering also what compels them—for what else could they do? Or, if you are able, remove their compulsion.“
September 7th – Our hidden power
Hidden power = Ability to use reason & make choices.
September 15th – A garden is not for show
“First practice not letting people know who you are—keep your philosophy to yourself for a bit. […] That is the kind of plant you are, displaying fruit too soon, and the winter will kill you.”
September 16th – Anyone can get lucky, not everyone can persevere
What’s admirable : “the person who perseveres through difficulties, who keeps going when others quit, who makes it to their destination through hard work and honesty? That’s admirable, because their survival was the result of fortitude and resilience”.
October 24th – The fountain of goodness
Dig deep within yourself to find the flow of the fountain of goodness. Just keep digging to find it.
October 25th – Two tasks
- Be a good person.
- Pursue the occupation that you love.
What is it that only I can do ?
What is the best use of my limited time on this planet ?
November 1st – Accepting what is
2 qualities to have : seing the event as it is & gratitude to it.
“Amor fati (a love of fate). It’s not just accepting, it’s loving everything that happens.”
November 16th – Hope and fear are the same
Hope = Fear = Projections into the future about things we don’t control.